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November 18, 2009

Sad news

Those of you who know my sister, Jill, may have known that she and her husband James were expecting a baby earlier this month. Sadly, on 10/29, less than a week before her due date and just two days after a successful checkup, she noticed a lack of movement and went in to see her doctor. They couldn't find a heartbeat. It's hard to describe or imagine much worse news; I know our family is still reeling.

I was there outside Dallas along with other close family and friends when little Camden was delivered stillborn on Oct 31st, just after midnight. He was a beautiful, beautiful boy and we all got to spend some time with him that night. I've never personally been a part of anything that was so heartbreaking and senseless and so awfully unfair. I grieve for my little nephew and for my wonderful Jill and her husband.

The cause isn't clear, but the umbilical cord was around his neck several times, which led the doctor to suspect a cord accident as the probable cause. That's not definitive, though, and not knowing the cause is one extra emotional kick in the teeth.

We know that none of us will get over such a loss, but Jill and James have a strong faith and so far seem to be doing very well, all things considered. During my time visiting with them in Dallas, I and other family members remarked often about how strong they were and we meant it. They were thrust into this awful situation that no one wants to be in and were keeping their wits about them better than could be imagined. Keep them in your thoughts.

On a related and personal note, we became acquainted with a organization called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep during this time and I can't speak highly enough about their services. They are an organization of professional photographers who donate their time and expertise to provide families going through this heartbreaking experience with professional portraits of the child. They do this at no cost to the family and they did so for us in a very caring and discreet manner. They came to the hospital within an hour of the birth in the middle of the night. They have jumped to the tiptop of my list of organizations when it comes to being donation-worthy. In a difficult time, they truly helped us out in a way that will endure.

I confess, it feels a little weird to put this news out on my little blog which, when I bother to update it at all, is usually full of far less serious matter. But, practically, I've heard from a friend or two who knew she had been pregnant and I wanted to get the word out to those who knew. And more personally, I'm still a proud albeit sad uncle and an even more proud brother and brother-in-law. I simply want to share the news of Camden with those I know.

Posted by Greg at 11:56 PM | Comments (4)